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September 03, 2010


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I'm coming to this late, but I love your idea of the "Legs Criss-cross" song. Thanks so much for sharing it!

Holly Gomez

Wonderful post! This is exactly the words I need to convey to the visiting speech therapy students in my children's school. I was told during our recent parent conference that there are now four more children on the autism spectrum in our school. My daughter has had alot of help from "visiting" friends to help spark socialization. I will be sending her teacher to your post in the hopes that the new parents might benefit from your words.


Hi, Devika. One suggestionI have for the behavior you are referring to is this: When asking him to do something and he refuses, say, You need to do this or I will help you. Then follow through and physically help him do what you are asking. That way hewill soon learn that he doesnt get out of doing something. Either he is going to do it on his own or with you helping. Once he learns this chances are he will start choosing to do things onhis own. This has worked well for me with my own boys as well as with children at school.

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Thanks so much for posting this Laura - it is very informative.
My 39 mth old goes to a Montessori here in Bangalore. One of the improvement areas indicated by his teachers is that he needs to start folliwing instructions. He currently just says no or pretends he hasnt heard if it is something he doesnt want to do. I know that the same thing happens at home when we ask him to do something he doesnt want to do. (Come to brush your teeth for example) - even if repeated multiple time, it somethimes fails to get him to agree. Do you have any suggestions on how this may be handled?


This is a great post, Laura and one that many teachers and parents have concerns about year in, year out.

In my school the children start at age four and my class is 4-6 years old. The youngest and least mature children are still engaging in parallel play. Getting the parents to undersand that this is more than typical, it is necessary, is really hard. They all want their children to be little geniuses and it is just not fair on the children.

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